SELF IMAGE -rewire your brain to improve your self-image
PART 1- Video
PART 2
It is a follow up after what I told you in my video.
I am still trying to get adjusted and work on my self-image…my fluffiness resulting from the side effects. It takes time. It doesn’t happen overnight. You have to keep telling yourself repeatedly and also believe in it, not just say it.
The thing is, I was more concerned about my looks coming in the way of my dating process. I was saying to myself, who will like me like this? I am looking for a physically fit man; why would he go for a person like me who is chubbier and chunkier. They don’t know it’s temporary. They don’t know what is going on in my life. They are just looking at my photos. And I didn’t want to lie or mislead others by putting up my older photos. I detest men who do that which by the way many of them do … when you meet them, you are like whattttt? Ten years older!!! Don’t get me wrong, women do the same.
But I think I am getting closer. I have accepted the way I am looking nowadays. Acceptance makes it easier to get through difficult times. What kind of self-talk you are having makes a lot of difference. Are you speaking loving words to yourself or not? Be compassionate to yourself first. When you do that, you emit that energy and that energy attracts others.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha
Giving gratitude is another powerful tool. By being aware of what we have, gives us strength and as a result our inner critic becomes gentler and calmer.
I use all the tools on myself before I coach others. It has an advantage. It makes me feel better, I know better how it works, and it gives me the confidence to tell my clients it really works. I am one of those — practice what you preach (coach in this case).
So I am back on a dating site. If I don’t get the kind of response I want, that’s fine. I understand looks are the first thing that we pay attention to. We all do that.
Whatever happens, one good thing is coming out of it regardless of getting a date or not. I feel good and comfortable about myself. That is more important than anything else.
